My end of things

First things first - I am totally proud of myself. I never thought I would write here more than once on my own volition. I don't generally surprise myself. This is one such time.

As the post count increases, I get this distinctive feeling that this blog is more for us the couple to relive all that we did during the wedding planning stage rather than a convenient place to update our friends. I mean if I were you guys, I would have been bored by now! Ah, what the hell. Its still a good thing and yes, you might come across a point or two that you find interesting.

The major happening of the week was a fleetingly painful and physical incident : piercing of my left ear. Yeah, I did it at last. Now another bodily desecration needs to be done : Tattooing. Not sure when though. I wasn't looking for the stud. But my mom was insistent that I get myself a diamond ring. I was totally against one. I made her agree at last that it needs to be a diamond and it can be a stud too. Now that its made and being worn, its too small that people fail to notice it. Don't think I can do much about it now.

We had our Vidya Mandir alumni meet on the 22nd. It was just a cocktail party sans speeches or teachers. The crowd wasn't much either. About 60 odd people turned up of which about 15 were from my batch. It was great to see Batty, Bargav, Jeeva and others. That was one wild night. I am hoping all these guys will turn up for the wedding. I think I met few other older alumni too. My memory is a bit hazy afte rsome point in the night. From the Palavakkam resort, we made our way to GRT for some light dinner. From there, a handful of us went to Sandy's motta maadi for a while and were talking uncontrolled gibberish until some slightly sane individual decided to call it a night. Not sure who among us it was.

24th was when the Kancheepuram trip happened. I didn't want to go. But my mom wanted me to be around when getting the first saree for Meena. And thus I was dragged to Kancheepuram. We ultimately bought about 15 silk sarees of which I selected the one Meens's is going to wear for our engagement(tentatively). I am hoping she likes it. Not that she has a choice in it at this point. But yea, this is another time when I surprised myself. I mean I am the kind who hates shopping unless its for me(Even that bores me a lot). And this wasn't any shopping. It was for sarees and not just one or two but a truckload. Somehow I mustered some interest and actually picked one for meens. Will post photos of madam in it after the engagement. My family of course decided to hit Nalli saree shop after returning to Madras. I was ready to jump out of the car if they didn't let me off voluntarily. It didn't come to that. I was let off near my house. Home sweet home! Although this experience wasn't bad, I believe I was able to stay through it cos' I was sure this will be my 2nd last for atleast a couple of decades(might hv to keep one in check for Dev's wedding whenever it happens)

My initially plan on landing in India was to hit the gym running, tone, swim, run a lot more and get to the shape of my life. And yes, I did achieve the shape of my life - round, and fat. None of the activities planned happened cos' I got so lazy and intent on eating and sleeping all day every day. And then this happened. I had gotten my reception suit from the US. I tried it on in the 1st week of Dec for the sake of my parents. Everything fit well. Now after about 20 days, I tried it on again for my sis's sake. And yes, I was trying to try it on. The pant never fit me. And I got a fit! I knew I had to act now and I did. I joined the Gold gym today(These freaking asses are so damn expensive for a month. I am paying more than what I pay in the US)
Now, instead of trying to get to the best shape possible, I am going to try and salvage what I can before our wedding. :( I think I will be real happy if my suit fits me without requiring a tailor visit. Felt good running and lifting weights after so long. Hope I do it continuously for another 30 days.

Meens, her sis and mom are visiting Chennai in a couple of days. We finally get to meet since I left for India a month ago. I am excited. I am sure she is too. I don't think they will have too much time to spare for us as their schedule is packed. But I am sure we will make some time and do some shopping for us and our sisters. And yes, both of us need to figure how and where Green Park, the venue for our wedding, is. I never got a chance to check it out too. And if we can find sometime, we would try and meet up with all our common friends here in Chennai. Meens has a make up trial on Saturday. This is to make sure she doesn't look like a buffoon at the reception. I am sure I am not alone about this apprehensive thought. Brides are basically slaughtered on the day of their reception in the name of makeup. I sometimes wish they do what they do on any other occasion and look themselves. Meena shares this apprehension and hence will hopefully take care of it.

My wedding invites will be out tomorrow. And invites from Meena's side is out too. But our dilemma is this. We wanted one made out which is casual and just for friends. That idea is still in its inception. So until we act on it, for or against, we can't send out the invites to friends. And yes, the honeymoon. Got to think about that too. Where are we heading to? What is the online poll saying? I am sure sitting at home and taking it easy is looking very plausible!!!!!

I guess this is as exhaustive an update as possible. Signing off for now. Merry Christmas people!

Adios,
Prem

A boring list of already dones and to dos

For some reason I just feel like jotting down a bunch of things thats happened or is in the process of being planned and executed!!

My mommy is the resident spiritual leader so to speak..makes sure every pooja and every temple is visited so that her daughter has a wonderful married life .(meaning she hopes I dont throw my temper tantrums and drive premku up the wall..hehe..sigh)..

I must say parents have this inner instinct..6th sense..they know me so well they know exactly why i would have had a little tiff with prem or gotten pissed with him over something or when Im all lovey dovey to him..actually its not rocket science because I wear my emotions all over my currently 'fullers earth' covered face..(the beauty treatment has begun.,.so far ive put atleast 3 vegetables on my face and one face pack)..my sister has given me a new nickname - water melon eyes.:(..thts cause i cry at the drop of a hat since im so emotionally high struung (i like how im projecting this super loony image of myself ..:S)..and when i cry and get up later in the night my eyes are the size of ummm water melons:S..sighhh

So ya to get to the point I was trying to make - my folks are always on poriki prems side whenever they realise I nicley scolded him for being a bad bf:(..che..like for example when he goes out with friends and never calls me...i get upset..my dads like "ur just jealous cause ur nt out with friends..if i were prem id be out too partying..ur just pain silly"...thnks dad..sigh

so ya its monday and the batallion is heading out to go shop for shoes..go give the blouses for stitching and eat our hearts out at woody's which is my moms latest haunt..apparently you get super masala dosas..trust my mommy to always find a place to pig out at when going shopping:)..infact shes been waiting to go to fab india with me because they have this little garden sit out place and they have the bestest brownies and paratas..hehe..so she decided today we must head out to fab as well...:)) my mommy's the cutest:)

So ya have this huge list of things to do when we head to chennai..dads in Trivandrum now..gone to give invites to family and friends there..I promised I would get up to send him off..hehe i slept:)..he just called and was like thnks for getting up:(..hehe..hes like "i knw u were chatting till 1 30 in the morning..hahaha"..im like ahh as usual..dad's and moms know everythinggggggggg:)

Home Sweet Home!

Cant express how happy i am to be home.I dont know how I could have stayed away from Mom and Mals so long. Always laughing when Im around them...They are a bunch of nutty fools..always crack me up:)

I have been going to the gym regularly as promised. Wanna be that skinny bitch for the wedding ..if not Im gonna look like a ball of kanchepuram/designer saree..

I actually got to go shopping for sarees for the reception and buy my wedding ring..its been fun shopping with the thirukode girls..us three mallu sundaris..heheheh//(ok sounded corny but whtever)..

Graduation was great...Im so glad atleast vasanth was there..I mean considering everyone else hgad their dads moms aunts uncles and third cousins I was cormore than just grateful to have a wonderful friend with me. Vasuuu is da best!:)..and my digi cam sucks..vasu if ur reading this u need to add some 'light' to it;)

so we will be heading to chennai on the 27th..need to do another round of shopping and make up trials and jewelry shopping..fun fun fun!..get to see prem who ive been troubling and being a pain in the arse to because he hasn't bothered to make time and come to b lore..hmph..I mean when I tell him that we haven't met since the beginning of this month hes like."wht..its only been abt 2 weeks..so wht"..I mean seriously am i wrong at getting freaking pissed over that comment or wht?..I tell u..men..they r losers..period. They just run after u when they are still pursuing you..then thts all..suddenly they r all rational and matter of fact...so cliched but so true..anyways now im going to chennai because i have to take care of important stuff like buy my 100th saree so ya thts tht..am i excited to see him?i dnt want to say anything..

The going-ons from my end

I have been in Chennai for a fortnight now. And up until now I have lived up to my own expectations: gain weight eating day in and day out, not do a single thing for the wedding which is around the corner, not even try to walk around the house as a pretext for an exercise. But as part of my job, I was working a lot for a while. So thats something. I had told Meena that I would get things rolling before she is here. But the way things are going(in), I will have to be rolled into the wedding arena. But not like I didn't try. I tried to run one day around the Gopalapuram area. And I expended more energy trying to stand still or outrun dogs on the road. Thats when I called quits for roadside running. So I am stuck consuming food, too bored to look for a gym and generally having a great time, hale and unhealthy:) !

One thing did get accomplished. My mom had gone to buy some jewelery for her future d-in-law and wanted me to accompany her. I of course flatly refused. But she forgot to take cash with her(or so she claims) and I had to be dragged away from my roasted cashew n almond mixed kesari and basundi to get her the money. So, technically I was there when she ordered the mangalsutra and others. And since I brought the quintessential money too, I believe I played a pivotal role for kick starting the wedding preparations. Meens are you listening?? Tell me, who is the man??!!

I have met many of my pals here. Met the usual suspects Sandeep, Vidare, VP, Sowmiyah, Siva, Sandy, Dinesh. Sadly missed Jana's wedding and the couple before they left for Dubai. Got to meet many, many more. Hoping to see Jayanth n hopefully Bargav soon. I was planning on attending Kamal's and Kiran's wedding(Kiran junior). But for some reason I kept thinking both were on the 16th Dec. So I dutifully looked up Kiran's number, called him and asked for directions to the mandapam. There was just one small issue. His wedding had taken place on the 13th. I tried and failed badly at damage control and incurred his wrath for a while. Hoping to meet the newly weds before they leave the coast. I did get to spend quite a lot of time with kamal(both at Rhapsody and later at Kiran's place). I believe I have spent more time than I wanted to spare;) Anyway, successfully made it to Kamal's wedding and later ended up at Lavanya's place. Lenny was around too. People here are in serious doubt of whether he is in Madison or Madras. That night was long. From VKs, the venue shifted to my place with my chums sandy, vidare and siva. Lesser said about these events is better. I think its suffice to say that we almost were in Hyderabad, then Pondy but ended up at Saravana Bhavan, RK salai at 6:30 in the morning.

Devi is in mid air coming home after a sem at CMU. She will be here till my wedding. Now that she will be here, I can take some time to breath and ask her to do some wedding preps. And its kind of strange that I am in Chennai and receiving Dev. It had always been the other way round for the last 5 years. So thats something.
And yes, Meensster has graduated. She is a Christies grad. Let me shout out in this forum :Meens, totally proud of you and your accomplishments. You are where your heart lies and will go a long way in this chosen stream. I wish I had been with meens for her graduation. Alas, we can't control whats not in our hands. But I am real happy that Vasanth could make it to her graduation and be my eyes and ears. The poor chap also helped pick up devi and drop her off. He will be leaving big apple along with Meens. Get to Chennai soon machi.

My 'wanting to watch movie'(esp Tamil) obsession has been sated somewhat. Did a hatrick of movies with my Mommy for 3 days straight. Vel, ATM and Poladhavan happened. Caught Billa with Sandeep on Saturday. So for now I m happy on that front.

Ok, I have been more verbose than what I am known to be. I shall stop here. Will update once Devi n Meens are in town. Got to go to the airport in another 6 hours to pick Devi up.

Adios,
Prem

PS:And yes, no mood swings for the groom. Again, what the hell is that?

Wow! I dont know why Im writing a lot more often than prem ..and i wish i had written more often..gosh its tougher than i thought..

either ways as of now its the usual madness that goes with any wedding..im totally going through mood swings right now..

at times im all excited and then when the reality of getting things done and figuring out how to organize things come up i just loose it..man i have a short fuse..and im lossing patience..sigh

so right now i cant wait to go home..ive been trying to be n a strict diet but then i dont even knw why im trying..actually i want to stop eating bread but i cant right nw case i dont really feel like cooking for myself..sigh

and the list of woes dont really end there

i think my luggage is too heavy and i have only 1 suticase
i have one too many ppl staying over at my apt and i dont knw hw we will manage..my poor guests who r coming to celebrate my graduation will feel like a bunch of refugees...

ok thts it for now//

will be meeting anita tommorrow for lunch..tht will be nice..we get to talk and rave and rant before i leave!!
lately my whole biological clock has shifted such that my day stars at 12 in the noon and ends at 2 in the night..

and i ate up half the crackers i bought for india..:(i was starving and i hadnt done my groceries...

im a baddddddddddddd daughterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr..i ate all the goodies i bought for home,...i mean i left the chocolates alone..cause im on a diet...oh wait im not..

ok so basically im totally spaced out right now...oh oh oh ..how could i forget to add this to my list of woesssss..i dont have a dress for the party..arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

House issue kind of sorted out! Atleast one of us is not gonna be homeless...sigh..

I forgot it was prem's Bday tommorrow and so instead of staying bk in jersey im sitting in my couch in NYC typing a blog..super..its like Im the guy forgetting my fiance's b day..sigh..poor premku..all alone..of course im going out for dinner tommorrow nite to celebrate nadia b day ..haha..so ill smoke some hookah and eat some moroccan food while prem sits alone ..damn it..im gonna be cursed and ill probably choke on my food or all tht smoke..sigh


so ya im so glad everyone seems to like the webiste a lot..sandhya was in tears, others think its a cool idea..Im so glad Indhu chechi and nitya chechi wrote back in the guestbook..gosh its been ages since i spoke to them and im so glad they get to read about prem and come to my wedding..

Went to the mall today..i realized tht the favourite passtime for jersy - ites is to go to the mall...and im slowly flowing with the tide..realised it takes a lot (in terms of effort anf money) to make your home look pretty and cozy..btw I love Ty Pennigton's line of bed accessories ..that stuff looks so good..wanna somehow put that in the registry..hehe..im so shameless but a couple's got to do what a couple's got to do..which reminds me..if this is our area where the hell is my fiance?he never seems to write anything..ok will deal with him day after tommorrow ..i shall be nice and sweet for now until nov 14th when its not his b day anymore..oh my god i have to go remind him that hes old....i louuu itt!!hehe..he gonna be 27..3 more years away from 30..how sad is tht (no offence to 30 yr olds and anyone abve tht age limit..i mean theres some saying goin around about 50 being the new 20..whatever the hell that means!..so ya then 30 must be the new umm 10?..i'll leave the math to others..)..anyhoooo..prem being 27 is old..hehe..he hates aging btw..so got to rub it in..

We finally did it. We sent out the website link today. Its been a crazy week so far..the gallery Im working at finally opened to the public.. what a space and Im so excited about working here....anyways..so ya finally feel like I have some time to myself and we were done putting in the info last week so feels good to have hit that send button..

I am tired though..Been working late and somehow just wanna go home now..There are these last minute things that keep popping up with regard to my apartment here in NYC, blah blah blah..hope it sorts out..Mom called me today cause shes booking tickets to some 10 different cities to go family and temple visiting..sheesh..i have a feeling ill be running around and then my trip to india will just fly by...I just hope im running around with my folks and sis..cause i want to spend all my time with them..friends ill meet once or twice and closer to the wedding im sure we'll all be hanging out..

so ill be hitting b'bay first and then flying to madras..dad might come to b'bay to fly back with me..that would be awesome..my daddy..hes all worried about my house situation..hope the confusion clears up..its nt a good thing especially with the whole gang from Wisconsin coming to nyc for thanksgiving..which reminds me to remind prem for the 100th time to call santhosh!! (so santhosh et all if your reading this you know ive passed on the msg!!)..

no but seriously..prem had to leave his house in jersey because of a crackpot roomie and hes been trying to find another place to stay for the rest of the month..god why does everything go dippididoo last minute!!!arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Photo Album and attention spans

Well, I just finished writing about Mals ..finally..sometimes you think you wouldn't have as much to say and then it just comes pouring out..Prem thinks people will get bored out of their minds reading just the first few links..I frankly dont care! I mean this is our website..I want to write as much as I please especially about family..Of course I am wondering if i repeated myself way too often writing that snipet about mals..ah well who cares..I just have this overriding feeling of love encompass my whole being when I think of her that repeating myself is a way of reiterating how much i love that kutti idiot!

Anyways..I finished painting another canvas..I miss painting as often as I did in college or back home..I get into the grove of it and then i run out of material..like right now i have two small canvases left and thats it..well im heading to india soon so i shall paint there..ummm..well if i have the time...

I love it when mummy calls...she tells me all about the wedding shopping spree and how beautiful my sarees look..apparently chennai is the place ladies!!She went crazy ..said people were literally grabbing sarees out of other peoples hands....what joys of shopping in india..i louuu the excitement..missing it all..wahhhhhhhhh...

so she said my mallu traditional saree looks amazing..my dad ofcourse decided that i should wear a normal saree and not the traditional mallu one for god knows what reason..but that is my dad for you..he will come up with these super brilliant ideas in his head and none of us will agree to it and he;ll get upset and ill get emotional and my mom will comfort me and scold him and my sis will give a very diplomatic point of view...sigh...i love my family...:) So that is something to look forward to because he hasn't brought it up with me yet..My Mom warned me though...(yes my mom does tht too apart from comforting me)..

Malu is waiting for me to come to india to do shopping for the reception..ohhhh I cant wait..shopping in the US is just not the same..because mom and mals isnt here:((..hmm got to get used tot hat someday i guess..anyways for now I get to spend time with them soon..shopping and then heading to McDonalds and having burger and coffee(yes burger and coffee..only in Indian McDonalds can you have that combo..I lou that too!!)..

(Prem insists i stop bloggin and write the "Things we Dig" link in website..I will get to it in a bit..yabba...)

Our argument for the day: Prem feels we shouldnt be writing blogs already..because everyone will get bored reading..now why hes so concerned about everyones attention spans annoys me..period.

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Disclaimer: Come what may, I love Meens!

I am supposed to write here such that my blogs fit the pattern - a-blog-a-day atleast until our wedding..
So here goes .... I am tired of thinking and working so hard towards our wedding. The other person has got to accept that they got to work too.. I didnt want to mention it but if I didnt, she would..
I am still confident that in the end truth and I shall prevail.
So long suckers!

Prem

ps: wow! My first blog entry in this realm called blogosphere! Wasnt hard at all..

Oct 26th 2007

So I decided to to create a blog where Prem and I get to write our feelings and express our emotions as we prepare for the wedding..Hmmm..swell idea right..I mean think about it..I get to complain about how he hasnt done anything with regard to the website except go "umm" every time I ask him for his opinion or suggestion..I like this ..I get to vent here if need be and Prem gets to read it..

So ok maybe this will end up as being one of those "places" where I can leave subtle messages for Prem so that he gets the job done..And yes of course Im sure hes gonna leave a precious comment or two....

At the end of it the ones who are going to have the most amount of fun/get shit bored reading this is you guys...Its like the backstage drama of a Wedding production..hehe..Super.

So the wedding website is coming up slow atleast according to me..But it should be ok..I mean half the people we are sending this invite to aren't even gonna make it..losers..Will never forgive them...But ofcourse there are a lot of friends and family who are making it so thats awesome..

I still need to work on the invites..I mean I have ideas but I have no idea how to execute it..These are a special set of invites we want to send to friends..I talked to Roshan too for ideas but its still going to take time to figure out..

Its funny this whole blog thing..Prems sitting here and up until this point he was reading it while I wrote..And I was like "can i have my space please..dont read while Im writing"..And he blinks and goes"I thought this is OUR space.."..Well this is getting too complicated already.....Im going to make Aloo paratas...

Meens